Don’t know what to buy? Do this instead.

Are you out of ideas for what to buy your children for the holidays this year? Have you noticed that the initial excitement of most gifts fades by February 1st, if not sooner? Perhaps, like me, you feel conflicted about spending loads of money during the holidays, which often feeds consumerism and contributes to the growing amount of stuff in landfills.

While I want to buy my child something special for the holidays, I come from a family of big gift-givers. Although nothing beats the thrill of unwrapping presents and being generous towards loved ones, I often grapple with the implications of over-buying. Over the years, I’ve tried various approaches—some successful, others not so much. Here are a few ideas that go beyond traditional gift-giving and focus on meaningful experiences. I’d love to hear if any of these resonate with you.

Support a Cause

One impactful alternative is to give your child the opportunity to support a cause or non-profit that resonates with them. This encourages end-of-year donations while allowing them to choose the organization. Together, you can research and decide where their contribution will go, fostering a sense of agency and connection to the community.

Compliment Card

Another thoughtful gesture is to write a heartfelt letter to your child, highlighting their positive qualities and everything you appreciate about them. Instead of focusing on achievements like “you are the best at soccer,” emphasize their character traits, such as “I love how you always think of others” or “I appreciate your perseverance in tackling challenging math problems.” Present it on fancy paper, rolled into a scroll, and tied with a ribbon. This will be a keepsake they cherish for life!

Family Experience

While you may already enjoy family activities, naming them as “quality time” makes them even more special. Write down various experiences on slips of paper and place them in a decorative box. These don’t have to be expensive; simple activities can create lasting memories. Consider options like:

• Family sledding
• Stargazing
• Nighttime walks
• Awe walks

Next step: Keep a journal of these family experiences, where each person can jot down their favorite moments. This practice not only strengthens family bonds but also encourages reflection on shared experiences.

Flower Watering

Just as flowers thrive when watered, people flourish when validated for their positive qualities. During a holiday gathering, draw names from a hat. Instead of giving a gift, share what you appreciate about that person, highlighting their unique traits in a family circle. This fosters connection and reinforces the importance of expressing gratitude.

Little House on the Prairie Night

Embrace an old-fashioned family experience by choosing one evening during the holidays to unplug from modern amenities. Use candlelight or dim the lights, turn off the internet, and put away your phones. This evening is about being together without a structured agenda. Embrace the silence and reconnect with one another. You might enjoy playing board games, reading together, or even baking something special. Ultimately, what your kids truly want is your loving presence—your time is the best gift of all.

Advent Activity Cards

Instead of a traditional advent calendar, create a jar filled with “Advent Activity Cards.” This approach allows families to draw an activity card whenever they have time, removing the pressure of daily commitments. Each card can contain experience-based activities such as:

• Making cards for teachers or neighbors
• Driving around to admire holiday lights
• Enjoying a family movie night with popcorn
• Baking cookies or treats for neighbors
• Donating gently used toys or stuffed animals to a local charity
• Making homemade ornaments
• Building a gingerbread house
• Decorating a tree for wildlife
• Making a holiday playlist
• Having a pajama day
• Learning about holiday traditions from around the world

This method encourages families to focus on creating memories and spreading joy during the holiday season, rather than accumulating more material possessions.

The Takeaway

As we approach the holiday season, let’s shift our focus from material gifts to meaningful experiences that foster connection and joy. By embracing alternatives to traditional gift-giving, we can create lasting memories and strengthen our relationships with loved ones. Thoughtfully choosing how we spend our time and resources not only enriches our lives but also helps cultivate a spirit of generosity and gratitude that resonates far beyond the holiday season.