It’s spring and there’s something in the air—something lighter. A sense of release and renewal. And yet, for many parents and teachers, there’s also another feeling creeping in: end-of-school-year stress.
In many ways, the month of May resembles the holiday season—full of expectations, packed schedules, and mounting pressure. But unlike the holidays, there’s no built-in break or cultural permission to slow down. The days aren’t longer, and the to-do lists certainly aren’t shorter. The calendar quickly fills with field trips, performances, exams, projects, report cards, transitions, and celebrations. While this season brings excitement, it also silently cultivates stress.
Take a moment right now. Pause. What stressors are you feeling? How many of them are tied, even subtly, to the end of the school year?
If you’re a teacher, that list might be long and obvious. If you’re a parent, it may take a little reflection—but chances are, you’re feeling the pressure too.
The Power of the “Beautiful No”
As you recognize what’s on your plate, try this simple mindfulness moment: After you finish reading, close your eyes. Take a deep breath. Then ask yourself: What can I let go of right now? What can wait? What can I say no to?
In her book A Still Quiet Place, Dr. Amy Saltzman introduces a transformative mindfulness practice called the “Beautiful No.” The concept is simple yet powerful:
What is one thing that someone else can say “yes” to, so that you can say “no”? What is one thing you can say “no” to that won’t negatively affect anyone or anything?
Saying no—especially to something that seems “small” like baking cookies or chaperoning a field trip—might feel uncomfortable initially. But this isn’t about disengaging or doing nothing. It’s about making conscious choices about where you can step back in order to show up more fully and joyfully in the areas that truly matter.
Practicing the “Beautiful No” creates space—to breathe, to rest, and to be more present for yourself and those around you. It’s a small act with significant ripple effects.
Like all mindfulness practices, this takes time to develop. But with patience and self-compassion, you’ll become more skilled at identifying your limits, protecting your energy, and aligning your choices with what truly matters to you.
As we enter this busy season, consider giving yourself the gift of “no”—so that your “yes” carries more meaning.
About the Author
Amanda Petersen
Amanda is the Executive Director of FocusedKids. As a licensed professional counselor, parent, and former teacher, she has a wealth of experience and knowledge that she is able to rely on in guiding the organization.
