So many things are notable here. He didn’t blame anyone else, but rather took responsibility for his actions. Because the principal could maintain calm, the student could co-regulate with her instead of becoming more frightened and more agitated. The principal and he spoke the same language and could problem solve while taking a calming walk.
Before teaching the curriculum to kids, you will find a section called “Before You Teach.” The above example shows the importance of adults experiencing what they will teach the kids first. It gives an understanding of what it takes to sit calmly and breathe…not always easy! Practice not only aids the teaching of new material but may give you a leg up on your own self-regulation! Through practice, you are wiring your own brain for calm responses in charged situations, which allows you to use an approach as above.